I know that we’ve all seen the commercials for sites like Match, Christian Mingle, and Tinder. We’ve all been enchanted at the fantasy of actually finding “The One,” through a dating site. Maybe some actually find someone that they can spend the rest of their life with. I’ve actually had a teacher who met his wife on Match and they’ve been married for a while now. I don’t know the ends and outs of their marriage but I know something worked for them. I’m actually happy it worked for them but still we all have to be honest and real with how things are currently in the world. You have to be careful with this whole online dating thing. You have to really watch your back with these individuals that you meet on these sites. In a lot of cases, many find themselves being “cat-fished,” and having everything they own taken from them because they believe that the person that they are involved with is who they say they are. It totally sucks finding out that the person you’ve met and that you thought you would could possibly have a future with, isn’t who they claimed they are. I’ve been on the receiving end of this bullshit with plenty of people who lie and pretend to be something they aren’t. Believe it or not, some people honestly use online dating sites and social media period, to create a different life then what they actually are living. If they can convince you that they are this super awesome person online, it makes them feel better about themselves because deep down they are insecure.
I actually had an experience with a stalker harassing me constantly for about two weeks. It seems like when you tell someone no, they get upset and want to lash out at you. Let me remind you that I’m not even 20 yet and this person was about 26. I never met them a day in my life! I only had talked to them online and through a text, that’s what you do when you try to get to know someone from online dating. I did the right thing and tried see what they were about and once I did, I wasn’t interested. I try to make things like this clear to anyone I meet online. Lets be real about what you want. Honest to God, at 20 years of age, I don’t want to settle and marry anyone right now. I’m so confused at people getting married this young, but that’s another post. Anyone who knows me can tell you that if I never make it my obligation to actually meet you ( a important part of the dating process) I’m not interested. So its ridiculous to just assume that a 19 year old wants to end their life with a stranger who doesn’t work, doesn’t drive, and at the end of the day is kind of crazy. Thank God that I’m learning to stay true to my feelings because this stalker threatened to do some horrible things. In today’s time, you have to know what you want walking into online dating. You still have to know yourself, flaws and all. If you know you get attached really quickly because your eager to be in a relationship, then you should be very careful because you might subject yourself to something that you will definitely regret in the future. I’m not saying you can meet someone special through online dating, plenty of people do it, just be smart! Know what your willing to deal with and know what your certainly not gonna deal with. Again BE SMART!!!!!