In Control or Being Controlled?

We were all created different but the one thing that we all have in common is our emotions. I can’t speak for anyone else but I have been a victim of my own emotions and my emotional decisions have put me in a lot of situations that I now regret. In the process of me regretting those decisions that I made, there were valuable lessons that had to be learned.

Well I believe that the best advice that I was able to apply to any of my situations came from a source that didn’t mind being transparent about their past mistakes, so I vow to be as open and honest as I can.

I used to fall victim to my emotions quite often and I used to find myself in some pretty crazy situations by allowing my emotions to win every battle. My lack of self control with my emotions had me in a place where I ended up sleeping with my wife’s best friend.

You may say to yourself, I can’t believe he did that. Well, I did it, and at the time while being in my emotions, you couldn’t tell me I was wrong because I felt my wife gave me the right to do what I wanted because of the way I felt she was treating me. That decision was so wrong, and because I allowed my emotions to control me, I ruined a FIFTEEN year friendship between my wife and her best friend, that would never be the same again.

When you act solely on your emotions, you’re thinking  isn’t clear which can cause some major damage in your life and in the lives of the people that are connected to you as well. I’ve broke quite of few hearts by listening to the voice of my emotions, but the two hearts that I broke that hurt me the most had to be my two kids. I have a daughter and a son, and those two hearts mean the world to me and my emotions almost destroyed the way that they viewed their father because I wanted to act like a little boy, instead of manning up and being the example that my babies needed. Both of my kids started to act out in school, because of the stupid decisions that I was making and in the end my son ending up having to repeat the third grade.

Man, that really broke me as a father!! I’ve never really told anyone this, but I low key blamed myself for him getting retained that year, and I was a poor example to my son, which didn’t give him successful achievement with his schooling.

Take a page out of my book! Making decisions only based on your emotions isn’t the greatest idea. If you are only thinking emotionally, then it means you are not thinking rationally. I’m not saying that you can’t get upset or angry, but as an individual you have to learn how to think before you react.

I was having a moment just a few days ago when I was really upset and not too long ago that would have been the perfect condition for me to cause an emotional hurricane. Instead, I just took a walk and I didn’t involve other people. I just chilled until I knew I was thinking clearly and rationally again. In the end, the issue was resolved and I had once again added another victory over my emotions.

Is it an easy process? No, it isn’t! However, it can be done!

This lesson can be applied at any stage in your life, whether you are a child,  college student, or fully grown adult.

Before acting on your emotions, think about the repercussions to your decision. Think about those around who can get hurt in the process of you acting solely on your emotions. Ultimately, you have to choose whether you will control your emotions or whether they will control you! 

Stay tuned for #motivationalmondays next week for more inspirational tips!

You can read more in my upcoming book, It Happened, It Hurt, Now What? on October 27! Pre-ordering will be available soon!

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