For the last 14 years I’ve been in two different relationships, so I have experienced a lot of different relationship scenarios.
Now, I often heard the cliche term that “the women are always right”, but let’s be real do you really think that your house will be happy with just one of you being right?
Now, I’ve been single for the last year and a half, so I’ve had some time to analyze somethings, mostly traits about myself that I didn’t know about, but one of my pet peeves has to be relationship balance and fairness.
The one thing that really used to bother me was when my significant other would do something that I didn’t necessarily like, and I would have what you call “speedy forgiveness”, but man, neither my ex-wife or ex-girlfriend would give me the same treatment.
When you’re in a relationship, no one is above one another. Your relationship should be founded on a God, which will lead to a solid friendship, and then the both of you will begin to develop trust and care for one another.
My big sister Jae told me something that I will never forget when I begin a new relationship. She told me, little bro never go to sleep with out making things right first with your partner.
At the end of the day, it’s not about who is right or wrong, it’s about taking care of each others heart. I don’t ever want to see my future wife with tears in her eyes because I”m choosing to be a man of pride and allow her to to be upset over and issue that means more to me than her.
There is no disagreement that should stop the love that you all should have for one another.
I’ll be the first to say that I let something “Great” get away because of my pride. My goal in life now, is to encourage as many people as I can to take a different route then me. Respect goes both ways, and at the end of the day, all you have is each other, so foul play on either side can stunt your relationship growth.
Remember to check out my new book, It Happened, It Hurt, Now What? on October 27!